For many people, marriage is a new chapter in life, all about fun and happiness. In reality, marriage is something that requires work and dedication all the time. There is a big change in life after marriage which many people do not understand or expect. Here are some of the things you learn the hard way after you get married.
It’s all about teamwork: This may be the greatest change after in life after marriage. Before marriage you make decisions after considering just your own needs. But once you are married, you have to consider your significant other as well. Whether it is something simple such as buying groceries or something bigger like accepting a new job or buying a new house, it is important to consult the other person, especially if your decision will affect them too. You have to discuss things instead of making a quick decision. Marriage is all about teamwork as you now have a partner to solve problems and face issues with. Working together will make both members happier as each person will feel like they have a support system for life. Working together will also help you achieve more in your marriage in every way possible; financially, in your career and you will have a sense of fulfillment.
It’s not about you anymore: There is no “I” in marriage, instead it is always “us”. You should never feel like you’re in a competition with your spouse. Sometimes you have to take one for the team. Sometimes you will have to give something up for the sake of your spouse. If something goes wrong, both people have to work to fix it. Marriage is all about flexibility and helping each other and this something you will learn every day.
3. It’s all about compromise: If there is one thing that keeps a marriage going, it’s compromise. You don’t have to agree with your partner but you must understand their ideas and respect their decisions. You have to consider their position and come to a mutual agreement. Compromise requires sacrifice and swallowing your pride. You have to stick with your partner and find common ground. Also, you have to talk to them instead of shutting them out in anger. Once again, you must be flexible and accept their opinions. You must be open to change and new ideas. Compromising will keep your marriage happy and healthy in the years to come.
4. Everyone will ask about kids: Right after marriage, expect everyone in the family to start asking you having children? Are you having kids? How many? Do you have any names planned out? Everyone has opinions. Your aunt tells you to wait a few years. Your mother in law wants you to have them as soon as possible. Some comments or questions may seem intrusive or even rude. Such matters are completely up to the couple and no one should interfere in them. If it bothers you, let people know that it is a private matter and that you will do whatever suits you and your spouse best.
5. Unconditional love isn’t really a thing: You might have heard about couples who swear that they have loved their spouse every single day in their lives. This doesn’t happen in real life. You and your spouse will change over the years and so will your love for each other. There will be days when you are angry with each other. Some days you will feel grumpy or annoyed by them. You don’t have to love them every single day of your life. What you do need is to have faith in them (and yourself). When times are tough, this is what saves your relationship. Once you work through the difficulties together, your love will be stronger. Hard work, faithfulness, trust and dedication will carry a marriage more than love ever will.